Jennifer Lopez opens up about dealing with ‘hardships’ after split from Ben Affleck

The singer explained that she sees difficulties as not “happening” to her, but as “happening” to her and is always looking for the lessons they bring.

Meanwhile, Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s divorce is reportedly messy behind the scenes as they still can’t agree on how best to manage their assets and finances without a prenup.

Lopez reflected on her formula for overcoming “difficulties” while going through another divorce.

The “Hustlers” actress has endured her fair share of trials this year, including dealing with a broken marriage and canceling a planned tour.

Lopez has now revealed that she overcomes challenges by making sure her perspective is correct.

“I think the way I overcome things is not by thinking about them happening to me, but thinking about them happening for me and what the lesson is that I need to learn in that moment,” Lopez said British Vogue in a recent interview. “When I see things this way and stay in a more positive mindset, I find it easier to accept it for the lesson that it is.”

“Because these are exactly our needs in life,” she continued. “What am I supposed to learn here?”

Lopez further added that “there are no coincidences” as things don’t just happen “by chance” but for “a reason.”

She noted that she always asked herself, “What can I learn and how can I come out the other side better, stronger, more knowledgeable and somehow evolve and grow from this point?”

The 55-year-old versatile entertainer recently opened up about how she grew from her breakup with the Argo actor and the lessons she learned from it.

“I think to myself… ‘Thank you, God. I’m sorry it took so long. I’m sorry you had to do that to me so many times. I should have learned it two or three times already. I “get it,” she recalled as she chatted Interview magazine.

Speaking about the lessons her wartime sufferings taught her, she said she learned that she alone was “capable of joy and happiness.”

True to her words, Lopez won’t let anyone stand in the way of her happiness, and she recently proved that when an interviewer made a joke about her age.

Meanwhile, Lopez and Affleck’s divorce is still dragging on and has yet to be finalized. The exes were rocked by rumors of a heated argument earlier this year when they were not pictured together in public for more than a month.

Lopez then filed for divorce without an attorney in Los Angeles Superior Court, where she listed the initial date of separation as April 26.

She also refused any form of support and asked the judge to deny spousal support to the “Gone Girl” actor, but the two made no progress in their divorce.

A source told In touch weekly that the duo is still struggling to reach an agreement, months after Lopez filed to end their marriage.

“It has been six months since she filed for divorce and nothing has been resolved. It doesn’t look like they are close to finalizing the divorce,” the source explained. “They both said they wanted to do it amicably and have even said good things about consciously wanting to separate, but that plan seems to be falling apart because they can’t agree on how to divide things up, what.” of course has an impact on things.”

Despite their differences, Lopez and Affleck have decided to remain cordial in their relationship with each other.

Accordingly Page sixA source said the estranged couple plan to stay “connected” after the divorce and take care of their blended family.

“They have every intention of continuing to be involved in each other’s lives, even if they are not romantically involved,” the insider shared. “Ben and Jennifer are still connected and communicating when it comes to their children.”

Although Lopez and Affleck are still in the process of mediating their divorce, sources claim that the singer is doing well despite the end of her marriage.

Not only is she in the right state of mind, but the singer is also keen to put the past behind her ahead of the new year and is “focusing on her own life.”

“She’s had a tough year but she’s doing well,” an insider said of the mother of two People magazine. “She’s ready for Christmas and a fresh start to the new year.”