In 2007 the Italian police Salvatore Lo Piccolo arrested.
This guy was a real boss from the Sicilian mafia in real life.
When they explored his house, they stumbled across what they were for theirs official “10 bids” of your crew.
In other words: “If you want to be a good Mobster, follow this 10 simple steps!”
- Nobody can present themselves directly to another of our friends. There must be a third person to do it.
- Never take a look at the friends of the friends.
- Never be seen with police officers.
- Don’t go to pubs and clubs.
- Always being available for Cosa Nostra is a duty – even if the woman is shortly before birth.
- Dates must be respected absolutely.
- Women must be treated with respect.
- When asked about information, the answer must be the truth.
- Money cannot be acquired if it belongs to other or other families.
- People who cannot be part of Cosa Nostra: Anyone who has a close relative in the police, everyone with a two-time relative in the family, everyone who behaves badly and does not adhere to moral values.
These rules certainly do not cover every single decision that every mobster has to make every day, but they are rules that someone can learn, internalize and advertise if they are in a precarious situation and is not sure how they should act.
The mob is not the only crew that has rules.
The old samurai in Japan had “Bushido” alias “the path of the warrior”. 8 rules for your personal code of conduct:
- Justice (justice)
- courage
- Benevolence (mercy)
- Respect
- honesty
- Honor
- loyalty
- Self -control
Elsewhere, knights in medieval Europe had a “knight code” that included things such as “Protection of the weak and poor, courtesy and respect, courage and military skills”.
Maximus Decimus Meridius in Gladiator and his co -soldiers have always taken up with “strength and honor”.
In 300, Spartan soldiers knew that they should “come home with their sign.
We have Rules for the nerd -fitness rebellion to!
I am calling for these rules because we may not be a mobster, knight or samurai …
But I bet a few rules for their life could help.
Rules can help us make decisions.
Life is complicated and our brain is able to talk to us in and from various decisions.
However, if we have a rule, we can make a clear decision instead of torturing me.
Is even more important. We can hit a rule, and then we do not have to waste brain output or willpower for every decision later.
Here is a short example:
Most of the successful popular diets are simply a list of rules that people follow Let them eat fewer calories.
- Intermittent fasting means “I only eat between 8 p.m. at 8 p.m.”
- The Paleo diet means “I don’t eat anything that a cave person wouldn’t eat.”
- Vegan means “I don’t eat products that are derived from animals.”
I do not say that one of these strategies is better or worse than everyone else. I put on these heuristics because they helped many and were not helpful for many.
Each person can find a number of aspiring rules that help them improve their lives.
I definitely have it “Fitness” rules that I usually follow:
I know that when I follow these rules “the path of the nerd”, I have a pretty good chance of staying fit, healthy and feeling good.
I also have rules for interaction with the world and Be a good person:
These specific rules may not work for you, and that’s fine.
They are My rules.
Your rules have to be reflected your Situation.
We respect the rules of others
Here is another funny hack: we may not like all the rules, but we tend to do so Respect the rules of other people:
Our employee offers you a donut and you say: “Ohhhhh, I shouldn’t.” You could “come back, live a little” because you don’t want to be the only person who eats a donut …
But if you say: “I have a rule that I don’t eat donuts on weekdays”, then you have a hard rule that you follow and your employee will probably respect this.
Some people could do without certain foods or drinks for religious or personal reasons.
There is no reason why you cannot have rules for any damned reason!
What are your rules?
A good combination of emerging rules for funding, professional and social care is a good starting point. Or the hell, just one of everyone!
Heck, even one for everyone can be a good starting point.
These rules should be yours.
Here are some ideas that help you get started:
- At work “I do what I say, I will do on schedule, or I tell my team in advance when I need more time.”
- With friends I always “send a letter of thanks after I was invited to something by a friend”
- For health, I only drink alcohol on Friday evening and Saturday while I watch College Football “.
- For sleep “I only see 1 episode of TV per night. I stop playing video games and turn off social media at 8 p.m. “
Write down some aspiring rules and see how it feels.
I think the more likely it is that you follow them.
Rules that actually help you make the long -term decision in difficult situations. You know in these situations in which your lizard brain eat the sweets! Or “Drink the drink” or “stay late and doomnCroll for 7 hours!”
Rules can also be preventive, so that they do not primarily end up in these situations.
We can set technology, app blocking software or our friends to help us remain loyal to our rules.
As soon as you identify your rules and actually write them down, keep an overview of how you are doing with you.
If you violate your rules more often than not, it may be time to adapt the rules, to think deeply or to work with a therapist to find out Why And What’s wrong.
Remember that failure can be a damn good teacher, and it is a great opportunity to learn that life is trying to teach us.
-Steave
